I'm sure nobody actually thinks I will have any harsh judgment against this woman and her article because I seem so anti kids myself and you would be right if you thought that.
I love my children deeply but they can annoy the hell out of me, and I am very aware of how they have changed my life, my body, and my mind. I do not regret having them at all I am happy I have them and they saved my life but I can empathize with the woman who wrote the article above.
The mother Isabella tells how she cared for her children and loved them but didn't ever really want them before and after she had them but she did it all for her husband. She was aware of how having children would dramatically change her life and she didn't want that. What is so wrong with that? Nothing! I am sure there is a point in every pregnant woman's life and a woman who already has children that they think of how much their life will change and they are scared, its normal! Yeah she had this feeling her whole life but so what, she obviously took good care of her children regardless of her lack of feelings toward them.
She took care of her children and that's more than some parents can say who actually wanted their children. There are so many parents who farm their children out to other people rather than stay home with them when they are able to. She devoted her life to her children and still is because she cares for her daughter who has MS and can no longer care for herself. She is doing everything a mother should she just does not have that attached feeling. So who are we to judge her on how she feels if she is taking good care of her children?
She is shunned because she tells the truth? Have parents in the past not told their children how miserable they made them or how much they can't stand being around them sometimes? What is so different about that? Just that she felt it her whole life, every second of every day, and not 100 times at least a week? Oh man big difference there! She is being judged for having a feeling every mother has at least once in their life she just felt it all along. It did not seem to effect how she cared for them and still does so I see no problem in her feeling that way.
I read some the comments below her article and was disturbed by what people wrote. Most of them were women, of course. And they had such harsh things to say, and its sad that they can say that they have never felt that way ever which you know is a lie. But some people have to pretend to be great parents and to love their kids to keep going through life instead of admitting their true feelings because they feel it is unnatural.
In this age how can anything be unnatural? We have interracial couples, gays, genetic wonders and miracles, yet having feelings that you don't want to be a mom is unnatural? I say bullshit! At this day and age there is nothing unnatural anymore, we are just learning how different a person can actually be and that is good. We should not judge someone else's feelings we should just accept that they are not our own. I respect what this woman has written and understand her fully in what she says, it is not an opinion I share about my own kids all the time but I understand where she is coming from. And everyone else should try that too.
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