Sometimes us parents get into a certain mindset and cant see any other way of life except with kids. Ok maybe we could but we don't want to because with kids comes lots of responsibilities and often not as many fun alone things to do like our friends. Why would you want to look at your kidless friends lives and envy them and let them know you envy them? You don't want to do that. You want them to have kids so they can be as equally as miserable as you are. But we cant just tell our kidless friends that can we? Nope. Instead we make up a list of reasons on why being a parent is soooooooo AMAZING and why they should start having kids right this second.
Yup, I let the cat out of the bag here but its because I feel bad for all the kidless friends who just don't want kids for no other reason than they just don't want one. And yet we heckle them about having kids anyways even though sometimes if we could wed go back and not have kids (I'm not saying altogether not have them just maybe not have them until we are rich enough to pay someone else to raise our kids...) I had my kids young so I've never gotten the OMG you should have kids speech and hopefully I haven't given one but if I have I hope I followed it up with a please dear god don't take that seriously, never have kids! kind of thing.
I say this because even though my kids can be fun/silly/crazy/cute/sweet/innocent/smart/respectful/honest and so on they can also be cranky/miserable/snotty/bossy/disrespectful/angry/manipulative/aggravating/aggressive (ok so maybe I can think of more bad words than good but that's just how it is ok). I know what its like to deal with whiny kids. I know what its like to deal with emotional kids. I know whats its like to deal with hyper kids. I know what its like to deal with sick kids and that's pretty much one of the best reasons someone could give as to why they don't want kids. All someone would have to do is tell me "oh I've been around your kids when they are sick, and um no thank you." That's all they would need to say and I'd be like oooooh I get it. I feel ya. That's how bad it can get with sick kids.
I think some parents may not be as easily convinced... so to those of you who don't have an understanding friend like me then maybe you should go a little deeper. Next time your friends kid is sick take videos of said sick kid, save all the parents nightmarish texts and internet posts. I'm sure they will respond with something like "oh but that doesn't happen all the time" and you can respond with "oh but it happens enough" because it does, it really does. One sick week with a kid is enough to last a parent a lifetime but unfortunately for parents there's way more sick weeks with kids than any of us would like to add up...
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