No.
Can I watch a movie?
No.
Can I play the IPad?
No. You're not watching tv, you're not playing on my phone, your not playing my iPad.
Can I play daddy's iPad?
No.
Can I play daddy's phone?
Daddy's not here and neither is his phone.
We'll can I play your phone?
This is a conversation I have with my kids everyday. If it's not about a device it's asking for something else. I say hold on a minute I'm pooping and so they bring me the remote and bang on the door because somehow I'm going to be able to turn the tv on through the toilet. If I say wait it's not dinner time they say well can I have a drink? We'll maybe a snack?
It's like what I'm saying has nothing to do with them.
Oh you meant I wasn't aloud to have a snack twenty minutes before dinner time? We'll you should have been more specific.
Yes because saying No Tyler you can't have a snack it's almost dinner time is not specific at all.
Why should I even bother talking anymore? I'll just nod or shake my head or push their face into the plate if I want them to eat or throw their clothes at them if I want them to get dressed. Maybe if I start asking them a question a thousand times they will somehow realize they should change their answer.
How was school today Tyler? How was school today Tyler? How was school today Tyler?
Maybe if I say it over and over he will stop saying fine or I don't know and actually give me a real answer? That must be how it works for kids right? You ask the question enough and the answers bound to change right?
So I'll just stop answering. And when I ask a question I'll ask it a hundred times. And when I want them to do something I'll just throw a tantrum until they magically understand what I was throwing a tantrum about. This all seems pretty reasonable right? We'll maybe not to an adult but it does to a kid so maybe if I start doing what they do something will finally click in their heads when I'm trying to get someone through to them.
Like oh. She asked it a thousand and one times now I can change my answer. She harassed me until I did what she wanted, I understand that. She threw a fit because she was mad I didn't do that, it took a while to figure it out but I got it. Maybe this is what they need to communicate with us. All this time we've been trying to teach them our ways but maybe before there is an understanding between both parties we must first step down to the kids level? Maybe this is the key to not killing our kids but them killing us??? It would be quite a twist...
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