We have 2 kids as all of you know. And taking care of them proves to be a very difficult task. I don't know if it is this difficult for all parents who have 2 or more children or if it is just us because we have crazy Lil to deal with. I feel like even though its 2 against 2 we are outnumbered. I feel like it should be 4 to 2, at least 2 parents for every 1 child, Lil may need 4 of her own though.
I often find myself dreaming about the old days where it was just Tyler and how easy it was to take care of him. Lil just makes everything so difficult it drives me crazy. As much as I love her I know life would have been a piece of cake without her here. I do not regret having her but I do regret not appreciating the simple times I had with Tyler. We know for sure that he has the personality that is pretty much meant to be an only child but I wasn't happy with one so I had to have another.
I just want to point this out. Pay attention to the first child you have, if you decide to have one. Some of them are desperate for a sibling and some would be better off without one. Tyler probably would have enjoyed being an only child his whole life, especially if the alternative is what it is now, that he has to be tortured for the rest of his life by his younger bullying sister. If you notice that your child seems happy being an only child do yourself a favor and stop there. Be happy with what you have.
I find that we always want more than what we have. If I had stopped and looked around and realized how great Tyler was by himself I may have stuck with just one. But I didn't and Lil was born and I love that fat little girl to death but she makes everything so freaking difficult and I have never been more stressed out in my life. I actually look forward to the day she has to start school!
I'm sure there is going to be someone who reads this that is like Oh my god how could she say that about her kid? Well if you are saying that then you obviously have not met Lily. Yes she is amazing, and smart, and cute, and can be so sweet but she is an explorer, and independent, and moody, and a bully, and much much more. She came out kicking and swinging. Hell she tortured me while I was pregnant and I am sure it was on purpose. Before she could talk she was bullying me when I breast fed by biting me with her little tooth if I took to long to feed her. And yes I know she did it on purpose because she looked me in the eye gave me a nasty look and bit me on purpose.
She has been miss independent since she was born and grows more and more so each day. And that is what makes her difficult to handle. I love that she is smart and likes to explore but I wish there was a way to keep it to a minimum so that everything she does doesn't almost kill her. It is very exhausting trying to keep your child from killing herself or her sibling.
So just remember this when you have your first and are desperate for another. You could wind up with one like Lil. And while she is amazing and has a hilarious personality she is a pain in my booty. And if you do so choose to have a second make sure you at least stop to enjoy the time you have with your first because your second could very well monopolize your time for the rest of their life.
This morning I told Tyler to get dressed so Lily went into his room and started grabbing all of his shirts and putting them on the floor in my room for him to choose from. Now do you understand what I mean by she makes everything more difficult?
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