If you are happy with your life and don't want to basically give it up for a whole new life then don't have kids.
Yes you can still do the same things you did when you didn't have kids but it is no longer exactly the same. When you are out drinking with your friends you are thinking about what time your kid is going to wake you up in the morning. If you are on a vacation you are thinking about your kids and what things you would do with your kids if they were there with you. If you go to a doctors appointment there is a chance that you may not retain everything the doctor says because you are too busy trying to pay attention to your kid.
When they say your life changes when you have kids they mean it. Every aspect of your life changes, well for the people who actually take part in their kids lives. For the most part you can do what you did before you had kids. But if after you have kids you choose to go out drinking a lot, travel a lot, or things that take up a lot of time then it can negatively effect your kid. And at that point what was the point of having a kid anyway if your going to ignore them?
I think people hear it when you say your life completely changes but not everybody totally gets it. I mean it really does change! For the normal parent, if you didn't have morals they seem to spring up over night. You seem to realize the things you need to change about yourself and your lifestyle and while that cant always happen over night it can happen.
This is something most people don't take a lot of time to think about before jumping into having a baby. That you may not be able to do some of the things you did before doesn't always register. But I don't think people are getting the point across properly. I think that before you decide to become a parent you should talk to another parent. Ask them about everything that has changed for them after having kids. Just be prepared to be there a while, it will take some time to get everything out.
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