I found this article on a friends Facebook page recently and I really loved what this guy was saying. Marriage is not just for you. You do it for your partner too. Not everything in life you do should be just to make yourself happy. If you care about someone else then you should try and do things that make you happy too.
Just because you don't care about the paper that states your married doesn't mean the other person feels the same way. I know Mike doesn't really care about getting married because we are basically married already. But it is something that is important to me so he is willing to do it to make me happy. I know its silly if you think about it, marriage is just a piece of paper stating that you commit yourself to the other person. I don't need that paper to tell me I'm committed to him, I already know it.
But I don't think it is just for me either. I think its good for our kids too. I think that when your married and have children its a commitment to work on your marriage. I feel like if your married it takes more to get divorced then to just break up. And yeah it costs money but wouldn't that make you want to try and spend a little more time working on your relationship rather than just giving up? I think it is so often now that people are just giving up and walking away instead of actually trying and making an effort and its sad.
Of course we don't have to get married its not a deal breaker for me but I would like to. And I am happy that we already have kids so that they could be for it to. I think it would make everything that much more special. Even if Mike and I were to never officially get married I would eventually change my name so that mine is the same as my kids. Plus I would love the fact that instead of being able to throw a rock and hit someone with the same name as me there would only be one or two other people in the United States with my name if I took Mikes last name and I kinda like that idea.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and some people feel marriage is an important step, others don't. But it shouldn't be just one persons decisions, it should be something you make together as a couple, it can help build your relationship knowing you are on the same track, or that one of you is willing to sacrifice your idea in order to make the other person happy. That is a big and amazing thing a person could do for their partner.
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