Different parenting styles

So Mike and I are like polar opposites when it comes to like EVERYTHING. We cant ever seem to agree on the same thing, EVER. If I say something is black he says its white, if he says its wrong I say its right. And it is so frustrating! I don't know how it is possible for us to think completely the opposite of each other!

He feels one way about parenting and I feel another way. But the thing about parenting is you can't let your kids know you guys are on opposite sides. If they know that you are not a team they will use it against you.

I don't really like giving the kids sweets, or juice drinks. Mike doesn't see the problem with it. The juice drinks we get for the kids are watered down and he thinks that is good enough. He thinks that they should get candy and whatever whenever they are good or doing something cute I think. I try to save it for special occasions. When we go to the store I don't mind getting them a cookie because it keeps them happy and calm the entire time in the store and that makes it so much easier for me! But I don't want them to think a constant sweet diet is ok.

 

Of course he knows that they need to eat good to, eat all of their dinner or whatever before they get candy but they don't need candy all the time after they eat good! This is just one of the many things that we argue about with the kids. But I am glad that if I say no to something even if he thinks it is ok he will agree with me because its important for the kids to know that they cant use us against each other. I am the same way when he says something and I have to say it is really nice being united against these trouble makers. It is nice to know that he will have my back if they throw a tantrum because they don't get their way.

I think it is so important that before you have kids you talk with your partner about  parenting styles you believe in. It will help you out later when the kids try and trick you into stuff to already know how your partner would have handled it if they were there. If your kids spot your weakness when they are young you bet your ass they will use that against you as long as they can. They are tricky little things, and they are super smart and they learn to turn you against each

other early so make sure you are united from the start. You may have to give in sometimes but it is for the best to at least be on the same page!