People always ask me how are the kids, and I answer: annoying, so miserable, or their demons. Because for one they are all of those, but then also who wants to hear someone brag about their kids every time you ask how they are?
I mean I could say oh well Tyler is 3 and can count in Spanish and English, he knows his alphabet, shapes, colors, animals, and pretty much everything kids who are turning 5 would know because he is so freaking smart! And I could say that Lily is 1 and she can run, talk, sing, dance, has an incredible memory, and is learning different body parts daily along with tons of other things which is more than many parents of kids her age could say.
But seriously who wants to hear that? I mean my family would be ok with it of course. But anybody else? No probably not. I mean being a parent can become very competitive, every body wants their kid to be the smartest, the prettiest, and whatever else but it doesn't always happen for you. I know my kids are crazy crazy smart and its incredible to watch them learn. But I don't need to rub that into other peoples faces, especially my friends.
I am not saying their kids are stupid, or ugly or whatever because they are not. But my kids are older than most of my friends kids and all kids grow up in different ways. My kids love to learn, but their are other kids out their who are more hands on, their is also cases where they are visual learners and some kids don't express their knowledge for years and then they just burst out with everything. So why should I brag about my kids and potentially make other people feel bad, or question their parenting, or their kids ability to learn when it could just be that their kids have different learning skills than my kids. I mean not everybody is alike we all process information in different ways.
Or what about the people who don't have kids yet and hear about my kids and how smart they are and expect their kids to be exactly like that and if they are not they think they have failed. I have had that feeling before and its not pretty. For the longest time Tyler refused to talk or when he talked we couldn't understand him, but I knew people who had kids his same age and where speaking sentences. Hell I was speaking sentences when I was 1. And when he didn't talk we thought we were doing something wrong. We weren't he just wasn't ready and he needed professional help to learn how to speak. He was born with a severe tongue tie so he was not sure how to use his tongue properly after it was clipped.
The truth is I don't need to. I give out enough information about my kids so people know that they are smart I just don't throw it all out there that they may possibly have insanely high I.Q.'s because that's not who I am. Plus its way funnier to tell people all the geniusly evil, or just plain evil things they do on a daily basis!
And just so everyone knows this is not a hit to my friends or family. I am simply stating that I don't feel that I need to brag all the time. My kids are smart and everyone knows that I just don't need to rub it in everybody's face every time my kids come up in a conversation. That's all.
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